“Why don’t you play in a band?” I get asked this quite often when I am playing. The answer is always the same: “I don’t want to.”
That doesn’t say much, so there is usually a short conversation to follow in which I attempt to explain my position. Actually I thoroughly enjoy playing with others and greatly appreciate the energy, synergy, creativity and downright fun of playing together.
It is quite another thing to formally organize and start playing as a band. Now you have hierarchy, structure, authority, responsibility and schedules. At my age that is a game changer. I don’t want to drive 3 hours each way to play for 2 hours, get paid expenses and a little cash and be tired for the next 2 days.
Playing close to home is so much more humane and pleasant. Playing for fund-raisers and church is enjoyable with little stress, other than self-induced nervousness from being my own worst critic. Of course the music could always be better!
Playing with my flute playing musical partner is the most fun of all. She was a music teacher as an adult and keeps me in line with timing, tempo, those funny things called notes and is constantly exposing me to new artists and new versions of traditional songs and tune.